cmd-list cleanup

[wraithgar]

Lots of fixes here, please do not squash-merge this.

[wraithgar]

This was branched off of #4607, so that needs to land first then this can be rebased.

[npm-robot]

no statistically significant performance changes detected

timing results

app-large	clean	lock-only	cache-only	cache-only peer-deps	modules-only	no-lock	no-cache	no-modules	no-clean	no-clean audit
npm@8	64.049 ±3.94	41.524 ±0.09	25.311 ±0.24	27.958 ±0.67	4.031 ±0.00	4.127 ±0.02	3.163 ±0.06	16.860 ±0.16	3.236 ±0.00	4.439 ±0.03
#4609	68.968 ±5.30	41.604 ±0.24	25.080 ±0.39	27.991 ±0.79	3.975 ±0.02	4.082 ±0.15	3.150 ±0.04	16.960 ±0.20	3.221 ±0.01	4.756 ±0.34

app-medium	clean	lock-only	cache-only	cache-only peer-deps	modules-only	no-lock	no-cache	no-modules	no-clean	no-clean audit
npm@8	47.097 ±1.89	31.682 ±0.46	17.989 ±0.08	19.061 ±0.14	3.640 ±0.02	3.613 ±0.02	3.190 ±0.16	12.169 ±0.25	3.002 ±0.02	4.130 ±0.03
#4609	48.949 ±1.06	32.335 ±0.41	23.490 ±6.95	19.733 ±0.26	3.601 ±0.00	3.549 ±0.08	3.139 ±0.10	12.121 ±0.10	2.987 ±0.00	4.003 ±0.04